The Pros and Cons of Marrying Your Campus Love

Thinking of marrying your campus sweetheart? Here are the top pros and cons to popping the question and saying yes to your campus love.

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Would you ever have considered marrying your first campus love? While many brave teens may have popped the question before graduation, the new trend these days seems to be adults reconnecting with their campus exes over social media and tying the knot!

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For better or worse, we’re looking at celebrities who married their campus sweethearts, along with statistics, pros and cons, and all that good stuff you’ll need to know when considering turning your campus flame into your lifetime partner.

The pros and cons of marrying your campus sweetheart

According to LovePanky, when it comes to marrying your campus sweetheart, you’ve probably heard strong opinions on both sides of the fence. On one hand, how sweet it is to still be with the first person you’ve ever fell in love with! On the other hand, how would you feel about only having slept with one person… ever? We’re looking at the pros and cons of marrying your campus sweetie!

Pros

1. Your s*x life rocks. Since you are likely each other’s first *or one of your first* sexual experiences, you’ve pretty much based your entire s*xual repertoire off of what you and your partner get off to. If you are each other’s first partners, it’s especially fabulous because you’ve gotten to learn everything about what exactly makes them squirm with pleasure.

2. Your first love is the deepest. When asked why he enjoys writing teen fiction books, author John Green said that you never feel or love as fiercely as you do when you are in your teenage years. We couldn’t agree more! So why not keep that young love going into old age with that special someone?

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3. You know each other inside and out. What could possibly be better than marrying your absolute best friend? You’ve grown up together, you’ve matured together, and you’ve probably been through most of the milestones of life together, like getting your driver’s licenses, turning the legal age, and going to college.

4. You learn forgiveness. Let’s face it, we make pretty stupid mistakes when we’re young, and we learn to forgive a lot because of it. Growing up together not only allows you to mature and evolve as a unit, but it also gives you a greater sense of forgiveness.

5. You can be yourself. He saw you when you didn’t own a flat iron and didn’t fill in your brows, and you’ve seen him with braces, no job, and a wallet chain. How can things get any worse? We kid, we kid! When you’ve been with someone since your youth, you get a greater sense of confidence not only in who you are personally, but who you’re able to be as a couple. There is a huge sense of comfort and self-acceptance in being with your first love.

6. Your anniversaries seem way more awesome. If you shacked up when you were 15 and you’re now 31, you’ve already been together for 16 years! Do you know what that means? You’ve officially been together longer than you’ve been apart, and you haven’t even hit anywhere close to your 50th birthday!

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Cons

1. Your s*x life, part two. All right, so we’ve heard the joys of your s*x life as married campus lovers, but here’s the downside in an easy threefold explanation:

– If your s*x is still bad after the first couple years, it’s not going to get any better. Sorry.

– In a monogamous relationship, you will only have ever had a s*xual experience with one person… ever! This means there are no s*x tricks to bring into the relationship learned from past experiences.

– As with most marriages, s*x can become a little monotonous. You’ve just gotten a head start since you’ve been together since campus.

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2. You don’t always evolve together. Being together since your teens may lead to a long relationship, but that doesn’t always mean that you’re evolving together every step of the way. Yes, your personalities will mesh to a certain extent over the years, but eventually, you may end up growing apart. Who you are at the age of 20 is most certainly *and thankfully* not who you are at age 27. Unfortunately, your partner may not always take this evolutionary step with you.

3. Unanswered questions. No matter how blissfully happy you may feel with your partner, unnerving questions may start to creep in, such as: What would it be like to sleep with someone else? Am I still into this relationship? I wish I were with someone with bigger boobs/bigger pen*s/better body. Am I missing out on the college dating experiences my friends are having?

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4. Lack of mystery. With all marriages, there is an element of mystery that takes a nosedive at some point or another. The difference? Instead of meeting in your 20s or beyond, you met in your teens, meaning there are basically no stories to share with each other, because you are probably in them already!

5. You feel forced to stay together. What seemed perfect in campus may not feel like the best romantic decision later in life. That being said, after you’ve already been together for 10 years, there may be a sense of guilt associated with leaving your life partner. You may even feel forced to stay in your relationship because of all that you’ve been through together. An unhealthy dependency may also form with your campus sweetheart.

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If you’ve read through our pros and cons of marrying your campus sweetheart and you’re still convinced you want to marry your first love, that sounds like a commitment to us! Remember, marriage takes work no matter when, where, or how you met your mate, but choosing the right partner is half the battle!